Actress Dayo Amusa opens up on challenges to motherhood

By Seyi Babalola

Nollywood actress, Dayo Amusa has spoken openly about the physical and mental hurdles she endured on her journey to motherhood.

It was previously reported that Dayo Amusa welcomed her child, Oluwafirewamiri, in the United States on November 18, 2024.

On Tuesday, December 31, just hours before the new year, the actress shared a series of lengthy entries on her Instagram account on how she faced three miscarriages, personal difficulties, and a diagnosis of uterine myomatosis in 2015.

She explained that after receiving her diagnosis, some doctors suggested her to have her womb removed due to repeated issues and excruciating menstruation discomfort.

Refusing to give up on her dream of motherhood, Amusa sought alternative treatments and eventually travelled to the United Kingdom, where she underwent surgery to remove the tumours.

She stated that in 2016, she discovered that one of her fallopian tubes was broken, making spontaneous pregnancy nearly impossible.

The actress added that the hardships persisted in 2019, when a failed IVF effort and subsequent heartache forced her relationship to dissolve when her lover considered having a kid with someone else.

She revealed that these setbacks left her frustrated and depressed, causing her to withdraw from family, friends, and her career.

She credited her mother for recognising her deteriorating mental health and encouraging her to relocate to the United States in 2021 for a fresh start.

Reflecting on her journey, Amusa expressed gratitude to God and those who supported her during her trials.

Sharing her testimony in lengthy Instagram posts, she wrote:

“I never thought I would get to this moment but GOD knew.
“For as long as I can remember I knew I wanted to be a complete idea woman ( a wife and mom ).

“Having had 3 miscarriages, in 2015, I was diagnosed with uterine myomatosis, and some doctors recommended removing my womb due to the complications and discomfort i experience every month during my menstrual cycle. I decided to fight and reject that option. I was on medications, injections and treatments to stop the growth of tumors until my uncle’s wife advised I come to uk for treatment.

“14th of Feb. 2015, I had the surgery to remove the tumor via TCRE Laparoscopy dye ovarian drilling procedure as I was really afraid of being open… In 2016 myself and my then partner decided to try again as we were so eager to welcome our 1st child together but later discovered one of my tubes was broken and it would be almost impossible to get pregnant naturally… Men as men, my then partner was involved with another woman unknown to me which produced a baby boy. After so many ups and downs, back and forth, na so the whole thing ended (Story for another day).

Fast forward Jan 2019 Myself and my supposed husband kept trying to no avail and then we decided to try IVF but yet all efforts were negative outcome. My supposed husband was really impatient with me, He was over 40yrs old and was insisting on having a child that year. He proposed if I could allow him to get someone else pregnant while am waiting on my miracle baby and when I couldn’t live with that, he walked away and ofcourse, got someone else pregnant months later and that produced him a baby girl.

“I became frustrated and very sad. I withdrew and isolated myself, I lost my purpose and loose interest in almost everything that matters to me even distance myself from my family and friends.

“My career suffered the most as I gradually lose focus and interest in my passion. I ran into my shell battling with depression for many years.

“All these time, my mum (my world) would suggest I relocate to the United States or the United Kingdom. She would advise I have a change of environment and breathe new soil as it was obvious I wasn’t living the life anymore instead life was leaving me. She once bought me the full return ticket as I’ve not been working and was financially unstable as at then. After so much persuasion, In 2021, I gave in to her advice to have a change of environment and that was when the story changed.”